The Lies That Christians Believe
Most of us have heard the common phrases such as, “All men lust”, or “He’s just weak in that area.” But, did you know that just these two common phrases are completely fallible? Do you know that because of these falsities that men and women believe, that they will not and cannot get free from the sinful place of lust?
Before I unveil some things to you regarding these lies and share a few more, there is something vital that I must share. It is so important that it is the foundational truth for a man to have any hope at being able to be free from lust.
Let us look at this verse, “And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her. (Eccl 7:26)” This verse is where it all starts. If a man is saved and seeks the Lord to be pleasing to Him, he can escape from the all consuming place of lust if he calls upon the Lord. If he is not saved or pleasing to the Lord, he will always be entangled with the sin of lust.
“The Greek word lakad for “taken“, literally means to catch in a net, trap or pit; to capture or occupy (1).” Many men are captured or occupied by unchaste women because they do not truly seek the Lord to be pleasing to Him. Any man who prays daily to seek the Lord’s will for his life, reads the Word of God and thinks upon the ways of the Lord including the direction for his life day to day, will escape from this woman.
Are you preoccupied with thoughts daily as to where your husband is, whether it be his whereabouts of where he lands his eyes upon? Do you feel bad for not trusting your husband? Are you told over and over again that you have a problem with trust, yet your husbands eyes are upon other women? Do not have shame upon your head for feeling such things if your husband lusts. Your husband’s preoccupation (being taken) has had a rebound effect upon the entire family and is the cause of your preoccupation with his whereabouts in the world and in his mind. Women will always follow men and if your husband is preoccupied with the things of God, you will follow. If he is preoccupied with other women, you will be too, I’ll touch more on this later. A man who pleases God will set his entire family on the path that God has before them. A man who is a sinner will take his family in a direction that grieves all the members.
One of the common misconceptions (actually, lie from the devil), is that all men lust. I can tell you one who doesn’t and he resides in my home with me. He is my husband. He grew up in a household with just his father as his mother abandoned him and his 3 other brothers. His father had pornographic pictures throughout his produce business office and talked filthy about women until he went to the grave a few years ago. My husband had to work out his salvation in that area to be free from the evil woman. He and I followed the Lord’s leading and he kissed me for the first time after two years of courtship on our wedding day. He has continually improved and moved forward from our early marriage where we had some things to work through with his past regarding his upbringing. He and I can easily share that he is free in this area and he is working out his calling to help other men who have or do struggle in this are. He’s also an example of a man who has been brought up in a home full of filth, who has overcome that place of defilement. Don’t let anybody tell you that because a man has been brought up in sin that he is cursed the rest of his life.
There are numerous other men in the Bible who were not lusting men. I will just name a few and because you already have the picture of a holy man written upon the tablet of your heart, you will be able to see it too. Moses was not a lusting man, think of Job who lost all and didn’t curse God. Then we have Joseph and of course Jesus (yes, I have to mention Jesus because I have heard ridiculous lies about our Lord and Saviour too). I can recall men in my life whom I know are not lusters. Some were family members, some instructors from when I went to college years ago and was not dressing appropriately. They kept a purposeful and intentful distance but with the gentleness of a father. I will always remember and respect their place with God, which in turn affected their place with their families and down to me when I was dressing like the town harlot back then.
All men do not lust. Please do not believe that lie anymore. The Lord has given men and women clear instruction and encouragement throughout his entire word to abstain from fleshly lusts (I Pet 2:11). The Lord would never give us a commandment to do without us having the ability to do it.
Another common lie is that “He’s just weak in that area.” I was laying on the couch one afternoon exhausted but not being able to nap because I had just had a baby a couple of months ago. My mind just wouldn’t quit. I remember the Lord all of a sudden showing me that sinful men are not weak in the sin of lust, as a matter of fact, they are very strong in it! I sat up and thought about all the sins that I had been so strong in in my past. I knew it had to be true but had to have the Lord verify it to me on my PC Study Bible. I searched and searched and could not avail anything. I still couldn’t shake it from me that it was a word from the Lord though.
I don’t recall when or how I came across the verse but when I found it I had found the pearl of great price and wanted to share it with everyone as I am now. Here it is: “ Lo, this is the man that made not God his strength; but trusted in the abundance of his riches, and strengthened himself in his wickedness (Ps 52:7).” See, here is a perfect example of a man strengthening himself in his wickedness or sins. Though it is related here to a man getting his eyes off of God and trusting in his riches, we can perfectly use this in the place of a man strengthening himself in his sins regarding lust.
As my husband has shared and I know from my own past experiences of living a lustful life, it takes a lot of energy and thought to bend towards a sinful place. One will go out of his way and expend all energy and resources to obtain what pleasures him the most, whether it be sexual sins, riches or doing the will of God. As you look through the Word of God, you will see many who strengthened themselves in wickedness. It was a work, it did not just fall upon their laps.
In most cases when the Lord talks about being weak, He is talking about being weak to do what is necessary for His purpose. Jesus rebuked His disciples for falling asleep when they should have been praying. Multitudes of Christians over many centuries have been weak at heart with fear when walking to the stake to be burned, but the continued forth and went against their very flesh that fought against some of the worst known pains of suffering. Women that believe the Lord doesn’t want them to use birth control, oftentimes are tired and weary from giving birth, recovering from birth and getting up in the middle of the night with a baby. Yet, in a woman’s weakness she will endure and continue to do what God has told her to do.
Another lie I would like to expose is that that “Men are built different than women.” This is the physical lie and is only a speck of a partial truth that has been made into a lie so that men can lust without consequences. Yes, men and women are built differently anatomically, but we all have the tendency and nature to lust before coming to Christ. Let us go to the Word about this first.
“The word of the Lord came again unto me, saying, Son of man, there were two women, the daughters of one mother: And they committed whoredoms in Egypt; they committed whoredoms in their youth: there were their breasts pressed, and there they bruised the teats of their virginity. And the names of them were Aholah the elder, and Aholibah her sister: and they were mine, and they bare sons and daughters. Thus were their names; Samaria is Aholah, and Jerusalem Aholibah.
And Aholah played the harlot when she was mine; and she doted on her lovers, on the Assyrians her neighbours, Which were clothed with blue, captains and rulers, all of them desirable young men, horsemen riding upon horses. Thus she committed her whoredoms with them, with all them that were the chosen men of Assyria, and with all on whom she doted: with all their idols she defiled herself.
Neither left she her whoredoms brought from Egypt: for in her youth they lay with her, and they bruised the breasts of her virginity, and poured their whoredom upon her. 9 Wherefore I have delivered her into the hand of her lovers, into the hand of the Assyrians, upon whom she doted. These discovered her nakedness: they took her sons and her daughters, and slew her with the sword: and she became famous among women; for they had executed judgment upon her.
And when her sister Aholibah saw this, she was more corrupt in her inordinate love than she, and in her whoredoms more than her sister in her whoredoms. She doted upon the Assyrians her neighbours, captains and rulers clothed most gorgeously, horsemen riding upon horses, all of them desirable young men. Then I saw that she was defiled, that they took both one way, And that she increased her whoredoms: for when she saw men pourtrayed upon the wall, the images of the Chaldeans pourtrayed with vermilion, Girded with girdles upon their loins, exceeding in dyed attire upon their heads, all of them princes to look to, after the manner of the Babylonians of Chaldea, the land of their nativity: And as soon as she saw them with her eyes, she doted upon them, and sent messengers unto them into Chaldea. And the Babylonians came to her into the bed of love, and they defiled her with their whoredom, and she was polluted with them, and her mind was alienated from them. (Ezek 23:1-17)
The Lord portrayed Samaria and Jerusalem as women who lusted with their eyes. They lusted upon the men and their attire that enhanced their manliness, just as a man lusts after a woman for her womanliness and attire that displays her womanliness. They lusted with full sultriness as the word doting is to “breathe after” in love, sensually. We can all recall some ways that women have gone out of their way to delight themselves in the ways of the flesh; the hot, steamy novels (many are erotic), soap operas (you already know they are gorged with sexuality), movies, television, sensual attire and more.
To my shame, I was not brought up right and my mother took me to a man’s home who had dirty magazines in the bathroom. I remember looking upon them in lust. It didn’t matter that they were women, if they were men I would have looked upon their body parts in lust as well. I felt the same feelings of arousal as a young girl as a man feels in his body. Men and woman both can think upon sensual things and look upon sensual things with intent for arousal and be affected the same way. Men do not have a tendency more than women to lust. It is a human nature bent that is in all of us from the time we are born. Only through Jesus Christ can it be overcome and controlled in the mind and the body of both men and women.
You know from your own memories, multiple times you yourself have lusted as a woman and if you are saved and have overcome this place, you need to realize that your husband should be in this place now too. He is positioned above you in all matters of holiness and that especially means in the place of purity in thought and mind too. If you have trouble accepting this after years and years of foul teachings, please go to the Lord my sister and ask Him to show you the truth about these things.
Here is a lie of the soul. Another lie we have heard is that it’s men‘s nature to lust. This is a lie of the soul. If he is a born again Christian, he has a new nature and that is not one that is bent towards lust but bent towards the things of God. He should be rejoicing for what the Lord has done and professing with his lips to others about his new liberty in Christ. And when the heathens of this world see this, they should be saying to themselves, “What is this that the Lord has done?” Could he do such a thing for me?” But, sadly, that is not the case. In contrast, men who proclaim salvation get together in church meetings and talk about women at the men‘s breakfasts (I’ve heard this from my husband), share dirty jokes, and pat each other on the back. They encourage one another in their sins and believe that they are able to sin freely because “By grace we are saved.”
It is ludicrous that man has no shame. He used to hide his sins or very privately or shamefully go to another man for counsel. Nowadays, he is open about his sins of lust and is commended for them. No one would share to a Christian woman who screams and curses at her kids in public that it is her nature and commend her for it. Even the heathens would step forth and say something. A Christian man who believes that it is his nature to lust is on the way to hell. He is also missing out on God’s calling for him. If only he would put aside his childish ways, the Lord could use him in the calling that God intended for him to be in.
Another lie that many Christians believe is that we are in such a dark age of sexuality like never before (images everywhere, lewd dress at the workplace, etc…) and because of this, God will understand and give more grace. People err in either lack of knowledge from a lack of reading the Bible or they have received wrong teachings or they justify their sins in their hearts because they really don’t want to change. Lot and his family left Sodom and Gomorrah. The Corinthians had perverted sexuality in some manners that were more open and perverse than what is accepted here today.
Men do have a means to escape. If your husband is working around co-workers that are dressed promiscuously, there’s no reason he can’t go to the manager or higher and share that he is a Christian man and a family man and would appreciate if the office code regarding attire could be changed to one of professionalism. If you and your husband go to a church with women dressed indecent throughout the congregation, give the pastor one of my articles called, “Harlotry in the Church.” If they do not change their ways, then leave the church. It is better to be alone in worship at home with your family than to subject your family’s lives to the ludicrous dress and teachings of the church today.
Please do not take the lies and excuses at face value anymore. Examine them and go to the Lord yourself and He will reveal and uncover these things to you if you desire to hear His truth.
1. Biblesoft’s New Exhaustive Strong’s Numbers and Concordance with Expanded Greek-Hebrew Dictionary. Copyright © 1994, 2003, 2006 Biblesoft, Inc. and International Bible Translators, Inc