What’s Wrong With This Picture?First of all, it is the woman who is holding the blower. She’s the one in charge, doing all of the work. Secondly, note the man standing behind his woman in a “supportive” role for all that she does. Real People! Brook (note, her name is first) and Matt are real people of today. She’s in charge and he wimply, oh excuse me… softly, gently and kindly supports her. This is a local ad so I assume they live in Washington. I’m guessing my husband may write this fellow. You might find them in the local church with Brook leading the way with Matt in tow… ; )
Here is the best book that you can read regarding marriage and raising a family. I found it on a website some years ago when looking for a book that the Amish use for marriage. It was written over a hundred years ago by J.R. Miller and although he is not Amish, the Amish publish and read his beautiful work. It is by far our favorite book for just living life. You can read it for free here: https://archive.org/details/homebeautiful00millgoog
You may purchase the book here for a little over $5.00: http://amishbooks.org/marriage-and-parenting/
Even Charles Finney, the Father of Modern Revivalism had a lot to say concerning the attire of Christian women.
Lectures To Professing Christians
Lecture VIII. 1836
CONFORMITY TO THE WORLD
by the Rev. CHARLES G. FINNEY
Charles G. Finney
Objection. “Is it best for Christians to be singular?” Certainly; Christians are bound to be singular. They are called to be a peculiar people, that is, a singular people, essentially different from the rest of mankind. To maintain that we are not to be singular is the same as to maintain that we are to be conformed to the world. “Be not singular,” that is, be like the world. In other words, “Be ye conformed to the world.” This is the direct opposite to the command in the text. But the question now regards fashion, in dress, equipage, and so on. And here I will confess that I was formerly myself in error. I believed, and I taught, that the best way for Christians to pursue was to dress so as not to be noticed, to follow the fashions and changes so as not to appear singular, and that nobody would be led to think of their being different from others in these particulars. But I have seen my error, and now wonder greatly at my former blindness. It is your duty to dress so plain as to show to the world, that you place no sort of reliance in the things of fashion, and set no value at all on them, but despise and neglect them altogether. But unless you are singular, unless you separate yourselves from the fashions of the world, you show that you do value them. There is no way in which you can bear a proper testimony by your lives against the fashions of the work, but by dressing plain. I do not mean that you should study singularity, but that you should consultconvenience and economy, although it may be singular. Objection. “But if we dress plain, the attention of people will be taken with it.” The reason of it is this, so few do it that it is a novelty, and everybody stares when they see a professing Christian so strict as to disregard the fashions. Let them all do it, and the only thing you show by it is that you are a Christian, and do not wish to be confounded with the ungodly. Would it not tell on the pride of the world, if all the Christians in it were united in bearing a practical testimony against its vain show. Objection. “But in this way you carry religion too far away from the multitude. It is better not to set up an artificial distinction between the church and the world.” The direct reverse of this is true. The nearer you bring the church to the world, the more you annihilate the reasons that ought to stand out in view of the world, for their changing sides and coming over to the church. Unless you go right out from them, and show that you are not of them in any respect, and carry the church so far as to have a broad interval between saints and sinners, how can you make the ungodly feel that so great a change is necessary. Objection. “But this change which is necessary is a change of heart.” True; but will not a change of heart produce a change of life? Objection. “You will throw obstacles in the way of persons becoming Christians. Many respectable people will become disgusted with religion, and if they cannot be allowed to dress and be Christians, they will take to the world altogether.” This is just about as reasonable as it would be for a temperance man to think he must get drunk now and then, to avoid disgusting the intemperate, and to retain his influence over them. The truth is, that persons ought to know, and ought to see in the lives of professing Christians, that if they embrace religion, they must be weaned from the world, and must give up the love of the world, and its pride, and show, and folly, and live a holy life, in watchfulness, and self-denial, and active benevolence. Objection. “Is it not better for us to disregard this altogether, and not pay any attention to such little things, and let them take their course; let the milliner and manta-maker do as they please, and follow the usages of society in which we live, and the circle in which we move?” Is this the way to show contempt for the fashions of the world? Do people ordinarily take this course of showing contempt for a thing, to practice it? Why, the way to show your abhorrence of the world is to follow along in the customs and the fashions of the world! Precious reasoning this. Objection. “No matter how we dress, if our hearts are right?” Your heart right! Then your heart may be right when your conduct is all wrong. Just as well might the profane swearer say, “No matter what words I speak, if my, heart is right.” No, your heart is not right, unless your conduct is right. What is outward conduct, but the acting out of the heart? If your heart was right, you would not wish to follow the fashions of the world. Objection. “What is the standard of dress? I do not see the use of all your preaching, and laying down rules about plain dress, unless you give us a standard.” This is a mighty stumbling block with many. But to any mind the matter is extremely simple. The whole can be comprised in two simple rules. One is- Be sure, in all your equipage, and dress, and furniture, to show that you have no fellowship with the designs and principles of those who are aiming to set off themselves, and to gain the applause of men. The other is – Let economy be first consulted, and then convenience. Follow Christian economy; that is, save all you can for Christ’s service; and then, let things be as convenient as Christian economy will admit. Objection. “Would you have us all to turn Quakers, and put on their plain dress?” Who does not know, that the plain dress of the Quakers has won for them the respect of all the thinking part of the ungodly in the community? Now, if they had coupled with this, the zeal for God, and the weanedness from the world, and the contempt for riches, and the self-denying labor for the conversion of sinners to Christ, which the gospel enjoins, and the clear views of the plan of salvation, which the gospel inculcates, they would long since have converted the world. And if all Christians would imitate them in their plain dress, (I do not mean the precise cut and fashion of their dress, but in a plain dress, throwing contempt upon the fashions of the world,) who can doubt that the conversion of the world would hasten on apace? Objection. “Would you make us all into Methodists?” Who does not know that the Methodists, when they were noted for their plain dress, and for renouncing the; fashions and show of the world, used to have power with God in prayer – and that they had the universal respect of the world as sincere Christians. And who does not know that since they have laid aside this peculiarity, and conformed to the world in dress and other things, and seemed to be trying to lift themselves up as a denomination, and gain influence with the world, they are losing the power of prayer? Would to God they had never thrown down this wall. It was one of the leading excellences of Wesley’s system, to have his followers distinguished from others by a plain dress. Objection. “We may be proud of a plain dress as well as of a fashionable dress. The Quakers are as proud as we are.” So may any good thing be abused. But that is no reason why it should not be used, if it can be shown to be good I put it back to the objector – Is that any reason why a Christian female, who fears God and loves the souls of men, should neglect the means which may make an impression that she is separated from the world, and pour contempt on the fashions of the ungodly, in which they are dancing their way to hell? Objection. “This is a small thing, and ought not to take up so much of a minister’s time in the pulpit.” This is an objection often heard from worldly professors. But the minister that fears God will not be deterred by it. He will pursue the subject, until such professing Christians are cut off from their conformity to the world, or cut off from the church. It is not merely the dress, as dress but it is the conformity to the world in dress and fashion, that is the great stumbling-block in the way of sinners. How can the world be converted, while professing Christians are conformed to the world? What good will it do to give money to send the gospel to the heathen, when Christians live so at home? Well might the heathen ask, “What profit will it be to become Christians, when those who are Christians are pursuing the world with all the hot haste of the ungodly?” The great thing necessary for the church is to break off from conformity to the world, and then they will have power with God in prayer, and the Holy Ghost will descend and bless their efforts, and the world will be converted. Objection. “But if we dress so, we shall be called fanatics.” Whatever the ungodly may call you, fanatics, Methodists, or anything, you will be known as Christians, and in the secret consciences of men will be acknowledged as such. It is not in the power of unbelievers to pour contempt on a holy church, that are separated from the world. How was it with the early Christians? They lived separate from the world, and it made such an impression, that even infidel writers say of them, “These men win the hearts of the mass of the people, because they give themselves up to deeds of charity, and pour contempt on the world.” Depend upon it, if Christians would live so now, the last effort of hell would soon be expended in vain to defeat the spread of the gospel. Wave after wave would flow abroad, till the highest mountain tops were covered with the waters of life.
1. By non-conformity to the world, you may save much money for doing good. In one year a greater fund might be saved by the church than has ever been raised for the spread of the gospel. 2. By non-conformity to the world, a great deal of time may be saved for doing good, that is now consumed and wasted in following the fashions, and obeying the maxims, and joining in the pursuits of the world. 3. At the same time, Christians in this way would preserve their peace of conscience, would enjoy communion with God, would have the spirit of prayer, and would possess far greater usefulness. Is it not time something was done? Is it not time that some church struck out a path, that should not be conformed to the world, but should be according to the example and Spirit of Christ? You profess that you want to have sinners converted. But what avails it, if they sink right back again into conformity with the world? Brethren, I confess, I am filled with pain in view of the conduct of the church. Where are the proper results of the glorious revivals we have had? I believe theywere genuine revivals of religion and outpourings of the Holy Ghost, that the church has enjoyed the last ten years. I believe the converts of the last ten years are among the best Christians in the land. Yet after all, the great body of them are a disgrace to religion. Of what use would it be to have a thousand members added to the church, to be just such as are now in it? Would religion be any more honored by it, in the estimation of ungodly men? One holy church, that are really crucified to the world, and the world to them, would do more to recommend Christianity, than all the churches in the country, living as they now do. O, if I had strength of body to go through the churches again, instead of preaching to convert sinners, I would preach to bring up the churches to the gospel standard of holy living. Of what use is it to convert sinners, and make them such Christians as these? Of what use is it to try to convert sinners, and make them feel there is something in religion, and when they go to trade with you, or meet you in the street, have you contradict it all, and tell them, by your conformity to the world, that there is nothing in it? Where shall I look, where shall the Lord look, for a church like the first church, that will come out from the world, and be separate, and give themselves up to serve God? O, if this church would do so. But it is of little use to make Christians if they are not better. Do not understand me as saying that the converts made in our revivals, are spurious. But they live so as to be a disgrace to religion. They are so stumbled by old professors that many of them do more hurt than good. The more there are of them, the more occasion infidelity seems to find for her jeers and scoffs. Now, do you believe that God commands you not to be conformed to the world? Do you believe it? And dare you obey it, let people say what they will about you? Dare you now separate yourselves from the world, and never again be controlled by its maxims, and never again copy its practices, and never again will be whiffled here and there by its fashions? I know a man that lives so, I could mention his name, he pays no attention to the customs of the world in this respect, and what is the result? Wherever that man goes, he leaves the impression behind that he is a Christian. O, if one church would do so, and would engage in it with all the energy that men of the world engage in their business, they would turn the world upside down. Will you do so? Will you break off from the world now, and enter into covenant with God, and declare that you will dare to be singular enough to be separate from the world, and from this time set your faces as a flint to obey God, let the world say what they will? Dare you do it? Will you do it?
I would like to share some writings from our early Fathers pertaining to the ways of the man. These writings are from “A Dictionary of Early Christian Beliefs“, Bercot, W. David. The author of this book has compiled this dictionary of more than 700 topics discussed by the early church Fathers from the Ante Nicene Fathers which is a collection of collection of books in 10 volumes on most of the early Christian writings. You can read this collection online for free: http://www.ccel.org/fathers.html or you can even purchase the set for under $200 on Amazon.
” From the very beginning, this was inculcated as a precept of Jesus among His hearers: men are to despise the life that is eagerly sought after by the multitude, and are to be earnest in living the life that resembles that of God (Origen 248 AD).”
“Whoever, then, prefers the life of the soul must despise the life of the body. He will in no other way be able to strive after that which is highest, unless he will have despised the things that are lowest (Lactantius 304-313 AD).”
“Are we not, in like manner, commended to put away from us all immodesty? On this ground, again, we are excluded from the theater, which is immodesty’s own peculiar abode. …The very harlots, too, victims of the public lust, are brought upon the stage… Let the Senate, let all ranks, blush for very shame! Is it right to look on what it is disgraceful to do? How is it that the things that defile a man in going out of his mouth, are not regarded as doing so when they go in his eyes and ears (Tertullian 197 AD).”
“The Christian man has nothing to do with any woman but his own wife. A Christian with grace-healed eyes is sightless in this matter. He is mentally blind against the assaults of passion (Tertullian 197 AD).”
“Buying as they do, a single dress at the price of ten thousand talents, they prove themselves to be of less use and less value than cloth (Clement of Alexandria 195).”
“The one peaceful and trustworthy tranquility, the one solid, firm, and constant security is this: for a man to withdraw from this whirlpool of a distracting world and to lift his eyes from earth to heaven, anchored on the ground of the harbor of salvation… he who is actually greater than the world can crave nothing or desire nothing from the world. How stable, how free from all shocks is that safeguard. how heavenly to be loosed from the snares of this entangling world and to be purged from the earthly dregs and be fitted for the light of eternal immortality (Cyprian 250 AD).”
“I will then see whether you will rise (at the resurrection) with your ceruse and rouge and saffron – and in all that parade of headgear. I will then see whether it will be women thus decked out whom the angels carry up to meet Christ in the air! If these things are now good, and of God they will then also present themselves to the rising bodies (Tertullian 198).”
I want to share something that I came across today while looking up some sources regarding Christian persecution in America. Here is a compilation of account after account of Christian persecution right here in America. The Liberty Institute has a free download of their 189 page survey right here: http://tinyurl.com/l7r886v
Here’s one example that you will find on their survey:
“Bible Distribution Lambasted by Freedom From Religion Foundation Members of Gideons International distributed Bibles in front of the University of Wisconsin Hospital. In response, the Freedom From Religion Foundation sent the hospital a letter complaining about the distribution of Bibles and demanding the hospital prevent the Gideons from handing them out in the future. The hospital submitted to FFRF’s demands to prevent the distribution of Bibles. http://ffrf.org/legal/other-legal-successes/item/15217-ffrf-tightens-security-at-a-wisconsin-hospital-april-9-2012.
Although you may wonder how this ties in with the content of this website, this is actually a subject that I am addressing in my upcoming book, “Harlotry in the Church.” There is a relationship between the church and the religious persecution that we are seeing more than ever these last few years.”
A dear trusted friend of mine sent me this link to a sermon. While my husband and I do not watch sermons online and are particular and selective about what we read these days, this sermon about the church will make any man or woman fearfully examine oneself before the Lord.
Do disregard how the title of the sermon comes across, it is not a fly by night type of sermon, it is a very serious message shared in a quiet, and serious demeanor.
It appears to any common Christian that there would be nothing wrong with a woman voting. She should have a voice and her position should count for something. But, have you ever given thought that there could be something deeper than what we see and hear on the surface? Here’s something so very simple that I am going to share with you that is overlooked by the multitudes.
Did you know that women didn’t vote because when their husbands voted, his vote counted for the entire household? A man and woman’s house was not divided. They were of the same body and mind and when a woman’s husband cast a vote, she was right there with him even if she was not physically present with him.
A man used to have position in his home. When he made a decision, it counted for his entire home. His wife, children and servants (depending on what era), would never be considered to be apart from him on his decisions. If a man spoke a word when a man’s word was gold, he was not speaking of himself. He was speaking for his entire family because he represented his family and their morals and character because they followed him.
God still has such a beautiful place for the marriage and family in unity under Him. Marriage is supposed to have such strength, unity and vitality but it has been perverted so much over the last century that very few can find the way to a prosperous and beautiful marriage anymore. We women have lost so much sanctity and beauty in marriage because self has exalted itself to seek it’s own way or it’s own voice instead of cleaving to our husband’s as a shield and saying, “I am with you, I will follow you wherever you go dear.”